How Do You Say Goodbye?

By: Myles O'Riordan
Monday, January 30, 2017

The initial feeling of shock and pain that you experience when you first learn of the passing of a loved one is part of the grieving process. As you go through this process you will start to feel a vast amount of emotions. You wont want to let go, but its part of the process. In this article we will take a look at some ways to make the process of saying goodbye a little more natural and easier.

 

Healing alongside family and friends

During this process it is incredibly important to push aside that feeling of loneliness and emptiness, you need to remember that you have a huge support system behind you. You friends and family are also experiencing a lost, so use them as support. When you attend a funeral service, there will be many people in that room that experiencing similar pains that you have, ask them how they were able to say goodbye.  If there is a visitation use this moment to take a private moment alone to say goodbye and tell them how much you will miss them. Once the visitation is over, re-join your family and allow them to help you through your grief. Do not deal with the loose of a loved one alone, it’s important to be surrounded by love. 

 

Sharing Stories and the Good Times 

Another way to say goodbye is by reminiscing of the positive memories that you have with your passed loved one.  It may seem hard to reflect on your memories that you had with them, but it is positive part of the grieving process to reflect. It will keep their memory alive and, cherish these memories with family and friends. You need to hold onto the positives, realising the negatives so that you can celebrate the life that they had.

 

Asking for Help 

Don’t allow yourself to feel deflated through the grieving process, there is no timeline on how short or long your journey will take. A way for you to say goodbye to your loved one is by allowing yourself to accept what has happened and learn to cope. At times you will feel alone and feel a huge amount of sadness, but remember that there are is a large support system behind you. Reach out to your family and friends when you don’t feel like you can cope any longer. 

 

Your family and friends understand to a certain degree the pain that you are experiencing; they are able to help you and provide you with proper coping methods. Maybe you need to take some time to write down how you are feeling, or write a goodbye letter to you passed loved one, but let your family in to help you though this hard time. If you need someone to go down to their memorial, ask for their help. You have a support system behind you that wants to help.

If you have any questions or would like to talk more about this topic, you can contact our professionals at, Wagg Funeral Home, here.

 

 

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